New Friends: The 80's Connection

There are tons of ways people become friends: work, class, mutual friends, etc. Each way, in the simplest form, involves two people seeing each other with a certain frequency, a bridge (the bridge being something in common to open yourselves up to meeting), and allowing growth between yourselves. The bridge can range from anything from going to the same high school to minimal as liking the same song, but what happens when the two people involved focus the two steps that don't involve growth of the relationship between them? In short, you get a "friend" that will kick you in the ribs for $50.

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A question that should stick out at about this time is How can a friendship like this continue?

Like that a family member that goes on a diet and decides to force everyone else into as well, someone is more invested than the other. It can be scruples or how they were raised, but the one that is more invested cares for the other person. Some people during this point in perform a cost/benefit analysis of the friendship. Why should I stay friends with this person vs. Why should I stop being friends with this person. Many people do this and it is normal, but to give into demands always is foolish. If nothing changes or gets better then it must end.

Just Remember: If the other person ends up being a total schmuck, using you for your time, and the friendship has to end, it's ok. They still can't take away the good times you had together.

-Future_Man_3000


P.S. - If you have any questions you want answered, feel free to contact me by email: futureman3000@yahoo.com