The Second Wave

A while back, roughly in November, I made a post titled The First Wave. That post basically talked about how couples typically break up around Thanksgiving, allowing for you single people to go out and find some newly available people. A lot of people have been asking me when the second wave would take place, believing it would happen in December. The reason why you were still with someone during Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanza/etc. and New Year's is because nobody wants to be remembered as the first break up of a new year or the person that ruined Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanza/etc.

In truth, your significant other has been weighing the option of dating you since the holiday. There is a saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." That saying is somewhat similar in terms of relationships, but it changes to, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me 30 or 40 times, shame on me." Those 30 or 40 times can more than likely present themselves over the holiday season. Since Christmas and New Year's are so close together, it is almost like one big holiday and, returning to the original expression, screwing up one holiday season is enough. Nobody wants to have a bad second one. Now what is that bad second one? You guessed it: Valentine's Day. If you make it to the weekend past the dreadfully romantic holiday, you are safe; however, people have cut it so close to the wire that they break up on the very day.

This is the Second Wave.

Just Remember: The first wave is rather helpful because there is still fun to be had in those early winter months, but now everyone wants to relax and keep warm, making going out a little harder. You will need to take a bit of time. Give it a month or so and you should be fine.