White Whales and Greener Pastures

There was this person I used to work with long, long ago that was so determined to do the job perfectly that there was no room for socialization. Mind you, I agree that one should put their best effort forward in what ever they do, but the fact remained that we were waiters. We weren't flying planes or performing surgery. At best, we attempted not to be pissed off at people that forgot to tip or attempting not to get into an argument with cantankerous customer. Which may or may not have happened at one point.

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In all the time I worked there, no matter how much ridiculousness I saw, I noticed that this coworker treated her job as if she were well above her pay grade. She wasn't very personable, but she got her work done. In the end, none of us stayed on. We all left because we either couldn't afford to stay or we no longer felt that the aggravation was worth the pay. When we found ourselves on the other side of having work there, many of us discovered a brighter world. That coworker, on the other hand, did not. She found herself stuck to that place, unable to leave. Keep in mind that working in a place that doesn't make you happy or allow you to grow is not worth time or effort. It will only lead to anger and stagnation.


Just Remember: Look for greener pastures because some White Whales aren't worth the harpoon.





-Future_Man_3000


P.S. - If you have any questions you want answered, feel free to contact me by email: futureman3000@yahoo.com 

Happy Thanksgiving

The holiday is coming up and it would be good to keep some form of plan in mind. It can be good to go with friends or with family. The food shouldn't matter, nor should many of the circumstances. Simply put, just go and have a good time. Happy Thanksgiving.

Just Remember: Being somewhere with great people is better than being alone in a dumpster.

Wishlisting: The Gifting Dilemma

November, the most insane month of the year. Amidst family gatherings, over indulgence of food, break ups, and football games is what I consider to be the absolute worst time of the year: Black Friday. The day is a menace to retail workers and shoppers alike; however, I find that the problem for shoppers has become more intense than it would have been over ten years ago.

Let me flashback to July.
My friends and I share a mutual acquaintance. This acquaintance is one of those people that is strongly opinionated and self-involved to the point that they can come off as abrasive. After much of her antics that had pushed us all away, she put a post on Facebook that said: "Hey everyone, my birthday is coming up in a month and I'm already excited. So here is a link to my online wishlist."

Looking past the entire issues that arose from this person previously, the true problem lies within the last sentence of the status post. While coloring someone a distinct shade of deserving, the concept of an online wishlist flies right in the face of what we are taught growing up: It's the thought that counts. Sure, we may be a little disappointed if someone goes out and gets us a parrot that ends up being destroyed, but it is good to know that someone cares enough to get a parrot for you.

It is true to say that it is the thought that counts, but having an online wishlist is akin to saying It's the thought that counts...provided that you get me what is on this pre-established list of stuff.

Just Remember: A wishlist is completely unnecessary when one is surrounded by caring people. The ones that love you would know.



-Future_Man_3000


P.S. - If you have any questions you want answered, feel free to contact me by email: futureman3000@yahoo.com 

The First Wave

A while back I wrote an article about how to meet someone in a bar. It worked for some people while others are left questioning why it didn't work. This entry is for those people who didn't find anyone and are now left saying, "Well, I can't find anyone because everyone is taken already." I have noticed that too and there is good news for you. HUMANS ARE PATTERN-CENTRIC! Think about it. Every June, August, and December have high gas prices because people are traveling more. Or how everyone decides to do something crazy during summer after having spent several months cooped up indoors. Relationships are strikingly similar.

Take the average single person. He or she, having been stuck inside all winter, wants to go out and have fun, possibly meet people. Let's claim that our average person has met someone and is dating. They go through the rest of summer feeling energized by this new found glory until about September when things slow down and start to lean a bit towards serious. As the weather gets colder, couples, like bird, begin to nest and find out how much they really want to destroy one another...or not. Of course both Sweetest Day and Halloween prolong the relationship, but by no means necessarily save it because the potential of Thanksgiving can kill it.

It will start off small, perhaps a disagreement about which movie is better, and it will escalate into either a series of growing fights or one full-out relationship-ending fight. Now you may be asking why would such a positive holiday kill a relationship? While Sweetest Day allows one to pick up for misgivings and Halloween allows for couples to have fun as a couple, Thanksgiving represents a couple getting serious. It isn't so much the holiday as it is bringing this person home to show off to the rest of the family that can make someone uneasy. There are other times this situation happens in the year and I will document them as well, but for now, this is The First Wave.

Just Remember: It's not the end of the world just yet...that's in December. Also, there are other people that are going to be single now too so you will both have something in common to talk about.